What’s your identity? You’re allowed only 5 characteristics

It’s an interesting mental exercise — to describe your identity. Stating the obvious, our sense of identity has very powerful implications for many areas of our lives. It influences how we behave, how we present ourselves, our mental health, our habits, goals in life, and aspirations. It can also put our lives on a slippery slope. For example, if some integral part of our identity — maybe the company we work for, or some relationship — breaks apart, it can be really painful; it can feel that the foundation on which we stand, the ground beneath our feet, is no longer in place.

To avoid overanalyzing myself, I thought I’d limit the description to only five points.

I don’t have a precise recipe for doing this exercise. I guess one way to think is this: when you present yourself to strangers, what do you mention about yourself, your hobbies, your career, and your family?

Below is my list, in no particular order. I should note that identities are not static. How I define myself now, approaching the age of 42, will likely be different from how I will be twenty years from now.

• I’m Russian. I always mention this, even when not asked, for example, when I introduce myself or when I interview. There is no profound reason for this mention. Maybe it’s a source of pride, maybe — insecurity. I have a slight accent. I came to the US for the first time when I was 14 — not young enough to learn to speak English accent-free. I used to feel insecure…