Most relationship advice is flawed because of this

Last night my wife and I celebrated 19 years since our wedding. “Celebrated” is an overstatement — it was a low-key dinner at a pizza restaurant. Our three kids were with us. The oldest one stayed at home. He often does, as you’d expect from a teenager who wants privacy.

Before we got married, we’d been together for three years. So in the summer of 2022, we will have been together for 23 years.

Of course, as a family, we’ve been through many struggles and storms, but we’re one and on the grand scale of things our…