I wrote about this on Substack (not advertising my other blog!

it just happens to be on a similar topic). There is another angle to this - failing is part of growing up. It hurts but it also teaches to find one's identity and move forward

https://open.substack.com/pub/runningwritingliving/p/i-watched-my-kid-fail?r=1egk93&utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=web