I find unsolicited life or career or writing or relationship advice emotionally unintelligent.

It annoys me.

I’m all for constructive feedback. Nothing can insult me and make me feel awkward. And if there is some awkwardness, it’s ok. In some situations, receiving feedback is totally appropriate. Say you have a business meeting, and your partner says you could’ve done something better. Or you’re getting feedback from your job interview, or you’re given your annual performance review at work — of course, there will be some advice, by design. Or if you’re training for a marathon! I had to mention running or any sport for that matter. If you’re an Olympic champion or a prodigy in your age group — by all means, share your experience.

But there were many situations when people advised me on my life or career when I didn’t ask them for advice. I was probably in a difficult situation. I was seeking help or I maybe I was sharing some experience I was going through. I got advice I didn’t ask for.

Today I was chatting with a good acquaintance of mine. Maybe we’ll become business partners in one project. I shared with him that I had a job interview. We were exchanging text messages.

“What type of work? Make sure they pay you”

A couple of days later I told him that if I get the job, there is one consulting I might keep.

“Focus on one, don’t screw it up”