Do you want your parents to live with you to help you with kids and around the house?

My mom’s visiting now from Russia. She and my stepdad come twice a year — for a couple of months in the summer and three weeks in the winter.

On the one hand, her visits are pure bliss. She loves her grandkids (four of them!) so there is love and warmth. And for my wife and me it’s like a vacation! The house is always clean, the food is always ready. No last-minute cooking, grilling, or grabbing a takeaway.

Look at how my mom spoils the kids with her cooking! Fairytale babushka!

And here is a picture from the last summer — we spent a lovely day in San Diego (my daughter and wife didn’t make it to this picture!)

On the other hand, it’s complicated. Several times I tried to talk my mom into leaving Russia and moving in with us. It’s a selfish plan, no doubt. In fact, I don’t even have a plan. For years my wife and I have been managing our big family without any help; we struggle often but we’re doing ok. Of course, there are many moments when we think how much easier it’d be if we got help from our relatives. We know a couple of families — our friends, of our…