Almost three weeks into the war — it hurts as bad, but somehow I’m optimistic

I’m wary of talking about my “hurt”. It ain’t hurt, when I’m thousands of miles away, when life is all as usual for my family. I rushed to get my Mom of collapsing Russia, but she and I discussed how our stress is nothing compared to what our relatives in Ukraine are experiencing, to the suffering of the millions of women and children forever displaced from their homes.

Still, the sense of shock over Russia’s war on Ukraine would not subside.

I shut the door on Russia almost a decade ago when my family immigrated. It wasn’t my intention to “shut the door” but for some reason, that’s how it felt. The country that was once my home no longer occupied my mind. I used to love Moscow but not once did I want to be back. I used to engage in light-minded Facebook debates about Russia with my friends, but I gradually abandoned even this effort, preferring to digest the country’s developments privately with my family.

The annexation of Crimea in 2014 was, of course, a big deal, an event of historic scale, the biggest mark — until recently — on the timeline of Russia’s fallout with the West. I was stunned to see how patriotic fumes from Putin’s Crimean operation intoxicated even my most liberal friends back in Moscow.

But I have to admit — the door in my head had remained shut. Russia was no longer home. Putin “belonged” to the Russian people living in Russia. What he did or didn’t do with Crimea was their liability…