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The most useless relationship advice ever
On this day twenty-three years ago I met my wife.
This construct, “met my wife”, sounds awkward. She wasn’t my wife then. She was a teenager, and so I was. It was a totally random encounter on a beautiful summer evening. Then everything changed forever, right on that evening. I keep sharing my own story about how we met, but, hey, it was the single most life-changing event of my life. It was also the single most life-changing event for our four kids. They weren’t around then of course. Or were they? Were they out there in some other dimension, picking us as their parents?
Not quite a quarter of a century together yet, but we’re getting there. More than half of our lives together. Thousands of days and nights spent together; maybe a thousand or two spent away from each other because of our studies, work, and travel. Many laughs, some arguments, some struggles, many … orgasms, and the overall life together full of incredible, often overwhelming, intensity.
So this is my advice, or, rather, my take-away from having been in a relationship for twenty-three years. It’s absolutely not about “making it work” or doing something for the relationship. I mean of course in any relationship you have moments where you need to put some extra…
